Friday, 28 October 2016

Day 689: To Dance

You can't beat an Argentinian! Fresh from adoring my time with beautiful Sandra Alonso in Madrid, I just got to have a go on Lorena Pollock in London. Okay, so with a name like that, she has a little British influence in the family, but she is proper Argentinian, that one, and an utter delight. 

Thank you too for a lovely, flowing job or two with excellent people. Always the way with actor jobs. They're funny creatures, and really good to work/play/be with. Thank you Ravin, Sean and Teresa for a most excellent jaunt and some really good work. I loved it, and to Molly and Anne Marie for another. It's a small world but one filled with eggs of the most entertaining nature. 

My cousin Ruth and I, in the last week or so, have mostly laughed, often about the stupidest of things, not funny things, and often in the gaps between less joyful news, but many times we have sat across from each other with tears in our eyes, sniggerweeping at each other's face. I cherish these moments of such ease and such delight. 

And finally, reluctantly, I go to dance. I know this reluctance will last only as long as I'm sitting in my head, and that when my body gets involved, all joy breaks loose. Thank goodness. This body needs it. It has been neglected. With love, muscles and hips at the ready... to dance!


Wednesday, 26 October 2016

Day 688: See You Soon, Bacon-Arms!


After toileting my phone and borrowing a brick, I’ve been cameraless for a couple of days. It’s like when you move a mirror. You don’t realise how often you use it until you find yourself staring at a portrait of your grandma to see if you look fit to leave the house. There have been so many things that merited a snap, and the universe wants me to write them.

Great Head House made me laugh. I’ll stay there next time. My airbnb hosts were the best, but they didn’t offer that! The glory of the bed of copper leaves that had laid itself out alongside me as I trundled to the station. Perfect, sheened beech leaves and hiding oak. I looked and looked, trying to drink it in so it would stay.

Yesterday, from the top of Hoad Hill, I looked out over mountains. I’ve yearned and yearned these past few months and though I wasn’t in them, I could smell them. The smell of Lakeland moss, the crisp of algae-covered stones, animal-scented fields, the fresh, sweet rich of country. I gazed out over dry-stone walls weaving through fields, sheep cloud formations, solitary trees. I fed myself on layer upon layer of distance, this mountain, that moor, this stretch of land.

It took me back. The Lakes were a childhood summer holiday regular, and a favourite. At fifteen, me and Corinne Hey (who I admire in her energy, openness and outdoors prowess, both then and now) took ourselves up to the Lakes to hike. We booked hostels, loaded up our bags and packed a map. We’d done a little bit of the Prince of Wales (??) scheme, so it wasn’t our first solo map trip, but not far off.  We did Scafell and nearly copped it at one point – a heavy backpack and a steep up. As memory is, I can’t remember which of us it was.

I stood and looked at Coniston, Scafell, and another whose name has gone … I ached to be there, walking, finding our way. I make a promise now, to take a friend or lover there within the year, to hike and have those mountains bless us as they did when I was young.

I love the north. I love how the hills give solace with their presence, no need for anything. They hold me better than the flat of Somerset, or the rolling downs of Sussex. I love the stone, the vegetation and the land. And any extra degrees of cold are more than compensated for in people warmth. I miss it and maybe I’ll come home and make the north my base.

And what a time to be here, with autumn throwing itself at the trees with lascivious abandon. Fire bushes jumping out at me, bushes full of bees despite the cold, gaudy red rosehips making raspberries look subtle, the treescape pulling focus from the flowers. Everywhere there is to look, my eyes are spoilt with symphonies of colour, greenbrownredgoldyellowbronzeandorange, blues and greys and creams painting the skies, punctuated with black crows: too much beauty to ever get enough of.

And every time I come home, I’m greeted by Skye, the crazy-wiry-wired Springer Spaniel. That really only means walking with her as she strains at the leash until she does her poo (mostly in the middle of the road) as she’s no house arrest for spay-scar healing. Her default positions are sitting, lying, flipping on her back, all including wide eyes and an intense stare. If I sit and work, she sits at my feet and cleans herself. It was hard to leave her, but her owners are back soon (my fantastic airbnb hosts, who don’t give head) and I’m on my way back down to London. I will miss her.
 

A stream of Halloween photos that make me delight. And, in my inbox, an email from a hotel so dreadful that I left it almost immediately, and there was little argument from the staff. I was irritated when I saw it, until I saw its sign-off: See you soon, Bacon Arms. Don’t call me that! So rude!

Monday, 24 October 2016

Day 687: Cumbrian Bliss Sticks

The hillsides here waken a part of me that's been asleep. I never thought I held much connection with my roots, with the England at all, with the northern landscapes I grew up in. I was wrong. It's not surprising. It's not news. The shapes and sounds and colours that touched me when I was young still touch me now. That's normal. I just didn't get how much. 

I'm up in Cumbria, not quite where I was born, but not that far. There's a difference in the light. Up here, dark and light can sit together in the same sky in a way that the south just doesn't get. There's a beauty in that too - the lifted light that Brighton has whenever there's a touch of sun - that's lovely. But Yorkshire, Lancashire, Cumbria - all that stuff up here - has a way of carrying contrast in its blood, as if its landscapes were the embodiment of a mixed message. I love it. I'm not sure I can live here, yet, but it's definitely in the mix of where I might live soon.

I've just come from a wonderful, rich, four-day feast of rituals, learning about rites of passage, rituals and ceremony with the Dead Good Guides people, two wonderful women who walk this work with the whole of themselves. It was 'fun', I was about to say, and of course we did have fun, but it was so much more than that. It turned out that altogether, we were 13 women, which in itself creates a very definite vibe. There was no shying away when emotions showed up. The women showed up too. There's no protecting needed when it's only women. By that I mean that it's less likely that someone will try to fix the rising swell, or put its lid back on. There's an easier space to sit with it. That's sweeping... I know men who do this very well indeed... and it was so quick and deep and easy with these women.


Some of them really made me laugh (I have to confess to a little crush, for this very reason); some of them got me full of curiosity and wonder; some of them filled me with admiration. All of them touched me at some point. And my beautiful friendsoulsister Tiu de Haan was there, so there was magic and wonder and a 70s gold lamé flare suit. I learnt a lot. I laughed a lot. I did some writing, which I loved, and I made a clear commitment, which I will honour. 

There was so much magic and serendipity, as if our days were orchestrated from above, beneath and through. There was kindness, music, and the beautiful fruits of autumn everywhere. 

And instead of going back to London, I'm still here. I was supposed to take a train back down to London, but my wonderful, lovely airbnb hosts are leaving me in their home with their dog tomorrow. I'll be with her (Skye, a wiggly, lithe, utterly mental Springer Spaniel who wees when she gets excited and does the best Big Eyes ever). All I need to do is take her for a poo. She's just been spayed, so unfortunately, I can't take her for proper walks, but we are allowed to hang out, and tomorrow, the cone of shame will be removed, so I'll be able to see her in one piece, rather than a body and a head in a cup.

I'm feeling blessed, full, tired and happy. I'm ready for the next bit. Strapped in. Go!

Wednesday, 5 October 2016

Day 686: The Things We Pray For

Tibetan chanting
I am wrapped in the bacon of success, like a pig in a great big blanket of happy. Success is a cocky little word, and that's not quite what I mean. It also implies some kind of end point, which of course, there isn't. There is in the world, in certain tasks, in throwing a ball through a hoop or placing a slightly guessy finger on just the spot to make a sweet, rich G on the D-string of the cello - but finite success can't apply to being alive, unless a spot-on death is what the question is. 

So if not success, then what? Satisfaction. Enjoyment. Pleasure. Curiosity. Fulfilment. Juice. I've just completed two days running a 'Storytelling for Leaders' workshop with ACCA, an organisation I've worked for before and now hope to again. We were nine, including me, and it was mint. It went better than I could have hoped - because whatever you have planned, it's totally dependent on the engagement, willingness and general openness of the people in the room. 



Very high-pitched scream
If they're not up for giving it a go, partaking, getting in there, then I could be cranking up alchemy in the corner, but it would be worth nothing at all. It's co-creation - a word that can rub me up like an unwanted London Underground grope when used too earnestly, or with 'that face' - but here, it felt like that. Without any one of the people in the room, we could not have done what we did, and the magic came from everyone mudding in. 

I fretted quite something in the preparation of the workshop, and I also learned something. I like to fret. I like to panic (Panic is a route to creativity - a quote off of a TED talk...). I like to breathe the moment in and breathe out what feels like it's needed. At that point, I am easy like the wind. Routine, predictable a plus b plus c, plodding, pressure-free plainness doesn't do it for me. High stakes, a little panic and good friends is what it takes. I am so richly supported in all of what I do, and I am grateful, to people and to bigger things. A co-creation from the start, a person is, and what they do. 
Meditation. Oms.

Today, I had a meeting with two of the most striking, beautiful, powerful faces in my life, and those faces belong to striking, beautiful, powerful women. Tiu de Haan and Rachel Blackman and I had lunch at the top of the Tate Modern. We talked. There wasn't time for everything we wanted to play with. They delighted me. I felt, at times, like I was about to be unzipped, revealed, denounced at any moment, and at others I was wound round with being in the tasty sauce of the moment. 

Speaking of sauce, I have three words for you: Devilled Chicken Livers. And then just moans and sighs. There is something so sensual about liver. Velvety, I think was the word that Tiu chose. I make semi-sexual pleasure noises as I'm eating that. My god, that's taste tantra, that is. My kundalini has finally risen, and all for a bit of spicy chicken offal on toast, at the top of a massive building. Bloody hell, though... I would. 
Tiny, silent Hail Marys

I have started praying. I had a suggestion come that I might try properly bowing down. Not because there is a thing, an offendable deity, a being that needs me to prostrate myself, but because in doing that, I get to notice and enjoy my very smallness in the face of everything, and the importance of doing and being what I am here to do and be is made clear to me. I would say more, but my knees have a date with this pristine hotel carpet, and my face then has one with the plumped up pillow. Night, then. May angels lullaby you, hold you, kiss your cheek (and maybe shave off an eyebrow) as you sleep. 
x

PS: I found a funny http://www.sadanduseless.com/2015/11/funny-wildlife/
2016's good too.